I know I haven't posted in awhile. I could site school, classes and other such things as to why I haven't posted. But the truth is after reading some of my previous posts they sounds whinny and I told myself I was going to write an upbeat post next time, no more of this depressing stuff.
I'm sorry to say this is not going to be an upbeat post...I'm angry quite frankly so I'm taking a small break from my paper writing to write this down or I won't get anything finished.
I have a friend lets call her Sally. Sally has a husband and 2 kids, and I love her family. They have been great friends. I consider her to be one of my best friends, she recently made a life style change to vegan/vegetarianism. I applaud this, changing the way you eat isn't an easy thing to do. I am thrilled she want to make her life and the life of her family healthier. Yes you guessed it there is a but coming....
First though a little back story. Sally is the friends we currently live with. We cook together, and have tons of fun doing it. We share recipes and ideas. So when my husband and I got back from visiting my parents for 3 days and are told "oh by the way we're vegetarian now" I was rather shocked. I was a little surprised and hurt she didn't ask me my thoughts on being vegetarian, see I had been mostly vegetarian for 14 years, up until the age of 22. So when my friend didn't ask me what I thought it hurt. The other thing that bugged me and still does is that she doesn't seem to see that her changing her life doesn't just effect her and her family it affects my husband and I as well. I cook meals on the weekend,was I going to continue this? Would we eat what she cooked during the week? That weekend I attempted to show my support by cooking some of my vegetarian meals. I was angry (still am obviously) and it might have come through a little when I pretty much yelled at them to just flipping eat it and trust me that it was good. I used to make breakfast every weekend and it varied. Everyone in the house loved my pancake/waffle recipe and I thought I'll make those no problem. I said on a Friday night hey I'll make pancakes in the morning but I'll use whole wheat flour so it makes them healthier. I was then informed they're going vegan as well...to be healthier and my pancakes didn't qualify as healthy. So the recipe my Dad and I developed wasn't healthy; the flour, eggs milk, baking soda, and baking powder are unhealthy. I was insulted and it still makes me very angry to think about it. So at that point I thought, awesome...now I can't cook/bake anything they will eat.
I was upset about this for weeks. I mean I cried many many times about it and I know they noticed something was wrong with me. Now I do have my own issues with vegetarianism/veganism, I wasn't healthy when I ate that diet. My muscles were weak and I was anemic, and gained so much weight it was crazy. So there was some of that in there. The main thing that bugged me was this is another change I have to adapt to. I have already adapted to going to school again, losing my house and my car and uprooting our life, then I adapted to living with friends and not making enough money for the first time in my life to support myself, and now I have to change the way I cook and eat, and the people I consider my closest friends don't think this is going to affect my life?! It was the last straw I cried almost every day.
Now its been over a month and they're sticking to the diet and we've kinda figured out food/meals. But now its everything is vegan. She made pizza crust over the weekend and I heard it was vegan like 10 times. I know its new and I'm trying to be patient but can't you just say I made pizza crust? We know you're vegan by now we get it.Why must it be vegan pizza crust?! or vegan thai chili. The pizza crust and chili were very good but if I had heard they were vegan one more time I swear I was going to scream. 9/10 of her posts on facebook have been about eating vegan or using organic food. What I don't think she realizes is that by saying what she does it comes off as her calling everyone else unhealthy and its insulting. I know she doesn't mean to be and she is just saying what they're doing and what she believes One of my biggest pet peeves is people who don't think their words/actions effect other people.
Its been a month my am I writing all this now? Because now I can write it and not be completely angry until something sets me off. :)
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